Hopeless Romantics

It has occurred to me recently that a lot of my friends and myself are going through break ups but the after effects affect us all differently. Some people try so hard to look for a relationship they don't even care who they date. Some people wallow in despair and think about their ex every waking second. My heart really goes out to my friends.

Speaking for myself though, I broke up with my last ex about three months ago and I was absolutely devastated. But I got over it about a month or two later. Of course with a lot of crying, not eating, but more importantly supportive friends. Dear gawd if I didn't talk to someone about my break up I'd probably drown in my own tears. Still, only a month or two and then I was fine.

Now two guy friends in particular just seem hopeless. It seems the only time they ever even talk to me is when they need to vent. Pisses me off sometimes but I understand what they are going through and going through it alone will only worsen. They are so scared that they will never find "true" love again so they make themselves unavailable just so they can wait for their ex to magically realize breaking up was the stupidest idea ever.

How stupid fucking stupid.

One of them has been waiting for iunno...HALF A YEAR! The other one...MORE THAN HALF A MOTHERFUCKING YEAR! And yeah yeah I'm not suppose to judge but WHAT THE FUCK LAH!? I think, but this is just MY opinion, half a year is a bit much to sulk over a long gone relationship.

The way I see it is that if you think there was more good than bad in the relationship, you should remember it as a good memory and that you should move on to make more good memories. But if there was more bad than good then why the hell are you stuck on it? Oddly enough I have a friend who is in the more bad than good situation and just won't let go yet.

What I'm trying to say is, why are people so addicted to love? It's not even real, and don't even try to say you are dating the love of your life for two weeks now, you can shut the fuck up. Why is it that people want to love someone else more than themselves? They want to spoil someone, hold someone, and love them when they very well know that someone doesn't give a shit about them.

For me I like to remember all the nice things my ex has done for me and just keep it at that. Don't want to be quick to look for another relationship. You know the rebound guy is called a rebound guy for a good reason. Because you are weak, vulnerable, and stupid you don't even realize who you are dating till you changed your relationship status on Facebook. More than half the time, it's a damn loser.

I know it's hard but you really have to detach yourself after a while and just admit that it ended for a reason.









Jar full of hugs,
Kupo